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Friday, 02 May 2008
Pro-ana
From a pro-ana site.
There is no such thing as an eating disorder. People have anorexic and bulimic life styles because they pursue perfection. Just like elite athletes, musicians and others pursue it.
Perfection is beauty
Pro-ana 10 commandments
1. If you aren't thin you aren't attractive.
2. Being thin is more important than being healthy.
3. You must buy clothes, style your hair, take laxatives, starve yourself, do anything to make yourself look thinner.
4. Thou shall not eat without feeling guilty.
5. Thou shall not eat fattening food without punishing oneself afterwards.
6. Thou shall count calories and restrict intake accordingly.
7. What the scale says is the most important thing.
8. Losing weight is good/gaining weight is bad.
9. You can never be too thin.
10. Being thin and not eating are signs of true will power and success.
Gemma Ward
Pro-ana creed
I believe in Control, the only force mighty enough to bring order to the chaos that is my world.
I believe that I am the most vile, worthless and useless person ever to have existed on this planet, and that I am totally unworthy of anyone's time and attention.
I believe that other people who tell me differently must be idiots. If they could see how I really am, then they would hate me almost as much as I do.
I believe in oughts, musts and shoulds as unbreakable laws to determine my daily behavior.
I believe in perfection and strive to attain it.
I believe in salvation through trying just a bit harder than I did yesterday.
I believe in calorie counters as the inspired word of god, and memorize them accordingly.
I believe in bathroom scales as an indicator of my daily successes and failures
I believe in hell, because I sometimes think that I'm living in it.
I believe in a wholly black and white world, the losing of weight, recrimination for sins, the abnegation of the body and a life ever fasting.
Eating is this
Secrecy tips
Don't bring up the subject of food around other people. Have your excuses for not eating ready in case they should bring the subject up. Some excuses I use : "My stomach's a little upset", "I'm too (tired, excited, nervous, busy, etc) to eat", "I don't feel like (whatever food it is), I'll get something later", "I did eat, didn't you see?", and "I stopped by (Burger King, Subway, etc) earlier".
Don't deny everything if confronted. People will believe a little truth with a big lie much easier than a huge lie. Act as if it's no big deal instead of reacting emotionally and people will tend to believe you.
Watch where you dispose of uneaten food or other "evidence", make sure that it isn't going to be seen or found by anyone. Wrap food up and throw it away outside the house. If you live alone, always take the trash out before anyone else comes over.
Graffiti
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Extractive identification epilogue
Roses states: “Ohh my goodness! I like the pictures!”
Thanks for your comment Roses. I am learning how to listen.
I am very much a visual type of person so when I do a blog post I put in pictures which just seem to fit right.
I have a huge file of pictures in my computer. I obtain these at random usually, (Sometimes I go looking for a picture on a specific topic but mostly it is just random scouring of the web and the blogosphere). If it find one that I like, that just touches me in some way or just seems interesting then I will save it. So in this sense it is an unconscious process for me. I just go with whatever seems to fit for me at that time.
Sometimes it is not too hard to understand ones unconscious urges.
The best photographs you find are on the websites or blogs of the deviants, the tormented and the maladjusted. In recent times I have been scouring “ana” blogs. Those individuals who promote anorexia nervosa as a viable life style. You come across some very interesting people who have great pictures on ana sites. However I digress.
Oh, let me digress just a little more. On Flickr there are many sites of men who dress in women’s clothing, particularly women's underwear. These men upload pictures of them selves onto their Flickr site!!. They show their faces and often other quite revealing parts of themselves which is quite hard to take being a male myself. But I can’t believe they show their faces in such photographs, what if their neighbour comes across them!! I certainly don’t download any of these I may add.
However, getting back to the point. As I scour the blogosphere I choose most of these pictures through my unconscious with little or no though given as to why I pick that one. When I have written a post I go to my picture folders and choose pictures that just seem to fit for the post. Some times I will pick a specific picture that fits for what I am saying but mostly in the hundreds I often go through a few just jump out at me for some reason. Again more unconscious selection.
I intuitively selected this photograph
As I now look at the pictures in the post Extractive Identification - Part 3, I find your comment quite revealing for me Roses. These are the photographs which I would call D&M photos. They are deep & meaningful. They are the beautiful photographs which the serious photographer would take. They are the photographs that one could have a serious discussion about in terms of its artistic qualities.
As I now listen to my unconscious I hear myself use the word ‘serious’ twice. That has been a difficulty for myself about the approach promoted by Bollas and what I observed at the workshop a few weeks ago. This therapeutic approach seems to me to be largely D&M and often quite serious. To my mind this is a negative. They don’t have enough fun or humour in the therapeutic approach and thus miss out on the therapeutic value of humour and Free Child in the therapy. This I wrote about in a previous post titled Humour and human functioning.
Taking life seriously
So obviously as I take from these psychoanalytically oriented approaches their means of understanding and using unconscious communication, I will then weave it into my style which tends to use a good deal of humour. It keeps the therapy lighter at least at times and is repeatedly stimulating the Free Child. Which in my view is important in psychological change and growth.
Graffiti
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