Tony White

Cyberfriend asks:

“I guess the circumstances triggered the dont exist injunction to be acted upon.

But what can determine the when?”
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That is a very Gordian question my pommy friend. Why a person would act on the Don’t exist injunction at one point and not at another? As is hypothesised people most often will make these early decisions like the Don’t exist decision within the first 6 years of life and then it remains in their psyche and only becomes ‘operational’ when certain conditions in life arise. They have decided that suicide is a viable solution to certain life events.

One way to answer your question is to look at the different form the Don’t exist decision can take. Seven alternative suicidal decisions have been proposed:

1. If you don’t change I will kill myself
2. If things get too bad I will kill myself
3. I will show you even if it kills me
4. I will get you to kill me
5. I will kill myself by accident
6. I will almost die (over and over) to get you to love me
7. I will kill myself to hurt you.


If one finds they belong no where that may activate the Don't exist decision



These give some idea as to the life circumstances that a person will need to have before acting on their internalised Don’t exist injunction. For instance with number two decision we find that person known as the share market simpleton. This person has taken great risks in shares and now they have lost everything and this could be in their mind when - things get too bad - and thus they will act on the Don’t exist injunction.

With such people one would be questioning them on what - “If things get too bad” - means. It may be related to the loss of money, or marriage or even their reputation. Once you have identified this then you can begin to understand and make predictions about when this person will act on their Don’t exist injunction.

One could take decision number five - “I will kill myself by accident”. Enquiry into the individual’s life on what they are doing that is risky and then looking at any Child ego state magical thinking around the risks they are taking. This will again allow one to make predictions about when this person will carry out their suicidal decision.


This mother made a smart decision




Suicide decision four - “I will get you to kill me” - sometimes happens in domestic violence situations. Alternatively people on death row can have made this type of Don’t exist decision early on in life.

Decision three - “I will show you even if it kills me” - is sort of suicide from a rebellious position. In this situation one would be seeking information about the person’s current relationships and finding out who and what they would want to ‘show’. Once the information is elicited then one again is more capable of answering the question that Cyberfriend asked - How does one determine when a person will act on their Don’t exist injunction?

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